First thoughts

So my husband and I have been married for just over 3 months now. So I realize I may not be an expert at being married yet, but maybe you're going through what I am. And just maybe we can all help each other.

Lesson 1: Don't lie. That should be pretty straight-forward right? But what about for something small? I didn't get all of my school work done and when my husband asked me about it, I said it was done. I know... Bad wife. This didn't just happen one week... it happened several. I started having nightmares about it because I knew my test was coming up. Now test time is here and I'm up a creek without a paddle. He was trying to be the sweet encouraging husband and I lied to him. Some would call this karma I bet. I would. So what do I do now? Work by big butt off!

Lesson 2: Fighting. We have been together long enough that I can say that if you think you're never going to fight with your significant other... You're just plain WRONG! Even the best matched couples will fight. But what do we fight about? Usually over something stupid and small; not a make-or-break-I-want-a-divorce-now fight. If you're like us, you chain smoke until you calm down enough to not want to rip the other's face off. Every couple is different. It takes me a while to get mad, but when I do... Oh boy. Watch out. Hell has never seen such fury. If I wanted to I could blame the chemical imbalance in my brain that makes me do crazy things, but I am who I am. Bipolar or not. But when (not if) you have a fight, calm down and then resolve it. We never go to bed without resolving the issues. What will happen if you don't resolve it? You turn into someone who brings it up 6 months later and shoves it in your partner's face. That's just not nice! And usually 6 months later you've stewed to the point that you're hotter than the fiery depths of hell. So just talk to each other. It may not be easy but it has to be done. Besides, what will your kids think about their parents who can't resolve issues? Don't think they won't be affected because they will. No kid likes to hear or see their parents fight. It really does make them feel worse about themselves.

Recap for today's lesson... Don't lie and finish the fight!

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